How do you deal with a conflict situation? Do you insist on your being right, implying of course that the other person is wrong? Do you feel your sense of justice and righteousness is at stake and your view must be defended and spoken out and heard? Here is a suggestion I find very usful when faced with conflict.

I have spent many decades learning from my dealings with other people. A lot of that only began to make sense since I started studying with Bob Proctor in January 2007, which I continue to do. The whole basis of his teaching, and thus mine, is the working of the mind, in particular how thoughts and thought patterns (how we think in automatic) determine how we act and continue to think. Knowing how the mind works prevents me from jumping to conclusions without knowing all the facts. And I know too well how the mind works (but still much to learn) to be upset by accusations or situations that go the “wrong” way.

“Right” and “wrong” are relative terms, and being 28 years married has shown me (after some turbulence) that being right is not important. Therefore it does not interest me who is right, or who is wrong. What interests me is that I rule my own life, create my own circumstances and thus produce the results I want, and in so doing helping as many others as possible to do the same. And this is done by controlling the mind and the thoughts we allow into our mind. That’s why Bob always encourages and reminds us to write down our goals and repeat them often. Repetition is his mantra.

The advice of the masters is this: In a conflict situation step back and become the observer. Watch what is happening. Look at yourself and the other person, see their reactions, listen to their words, watch their thoughts. But remain the observer, and do not judge. Doing this tends to reduce any stress related to the situation, removes any judgment against yourself or the other person. It shows a very different aspect to human relations – that we are more important than our emotions. There is a higher connection between me and the other person, a connection not relying on my emotion or the feelings of the other person. This connection is spiritual, or some prefer to call it energy.

This connection permits the transfer of energy between those connected (which is everyone), thus causing a reciprocal bouncing back of whatever we send out. If I send out hate, hate will return to me. If I send out blame, blame will return to me. If I send out unforgiveness, that too will return to me. If I send out love, that too will return to me. If I send out kindness and understanding, that will return also to me. I once worked with a man who was very bitter because he could not feel any love. I know now that is because he did not give any love out. The Bible speaks of casting your bread upon the waters for it will return to you.

This is why our thoughts and our words are very important and we must learn to guard what goes into our mind, for what goes in comes out.

How does this help you deal with conflict? Leave your comments here.

But one point is certain, The Secret only goes so far, and deliberately so. It serves as an introduction the great secrets of the ages, that you can determine your own future. Everyone alive has the power within them to alter their current circumstances, to leave the past behind them, live in the moment of present performance and to create the future of their dreams.

The Secret reveals how this is possible and gives several real life exampes of how to apply the Law of Attraction to finances, relationships and health. The secret is your thoughts! It is your thoughts which alter your future circumstances. The life you are now living is the life you yourself created with your past thoughts and actions. And as the teachers of The Secret so aptly repeat, it is your thoughts which determine your actions.

If you have felt The Secret is well and good but ask “How do I make it happen in my life?” “How does it work for me?” “What is holding me back?” Then good news for you. A team of experts, those who have lived and experienced The Secret and live it everyday, have put together an inspiring message in “Beyond the Secret”. Coming out soon on DVD, some of my personal mentors, Bob Proctor and Paul Martinelli, along with others including Les Brown and Holli Walker, have collaborated in putting their best teaching on this DVD to help you move Beyond The Secret.

“The Power of Positive Thinking is more than just a mantra, it’s a way of life. It’s a mind-body awakening, an answer to all of those questions and the path laid before us. All we need to do is unlock the gift that we all have inside and take that journey.
The destination is never as important as the journey. In these very difficult times, we are all looking for answers and looking for ourselves. Beyond the Secret holds the tools to take the idea of what The Secret taught, and puts it into practice in everyday life.”

Order today and be sure to get this DVD as soon as it launched. DOn’t listen to the critics, leave them behind as you move beyond The Secret to the life of your desires, the life you deserve.

But how many of you soon saw that hope dwindle into frustration? How many of you (and be honest now) started muttering things like:

- “It seems to work for other people, but I just can’t get it right.”

- “I’m frustrated that sometimes I can get it to work, but sometimes I can’t. What’s the trick?”

- “Why am I having so much trouble?”

- “I think the universe is against me.”

- “I’m trying very, VERY hard but still nothing is happening!”

Don’t worry, you’re not alone. About 97% of people also couldn’t make the Law of Attraction work for them the first time round. Think about it, just like anything else, you have to practice many times before you see success. A child doesn’t learn to walk without falling over a couple of times, right?

But in practice, everything is easier said and done. When you’re frustrated, it’s hard to stay positive. And it’s especially harder to stay positive when the evidence all around you is screaming negativity like the unstable economy or senseless acts of violence or those complaining individuals you can’t get away from.

And do you know what happens when you fail to stay positive? That’s right – you start attracting negative things in to your life.

So how can you make the Law of Attraction work for you – without getting frustrated? How do those who successfully implement the Law of Attraction do it with such confidence and ease?

Well, here’s three quick tips so you will never feel frustrated or tired of begging from the universe, because you know how to start manifesting naturally.

1. Allow Yourself To Receive

Just like a lost child who approaches a police officer and asks, “Excuse me Sir, can you tell me how to go to the post office? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you?” Well, if the child goes on and on asking, the police officer can’t even give an answer, right?

Well, it’s the same thing with your mind. If the only thing your mind is doing is transmit, transmit, transmit, the universe — which is trying to respond — can’t give you a single thing because you’re not allowing yourself to receive!

So, have the confidence in yourself and stop exhausting yourself by running around person to person begging for riches, and then wondering why nobody is dropping a penny in your cup (Hint: It’s because you’re running away too fast for them before they can even reach for their wallets).

Just think of your desires and leave it out there, go away, and trust that your cup will be filled with gold coins (or whatever it is you asked for) when the time is right.

2. Be Patient With Yourself

Receiving takes time.

Sadly, many people give up just a couple of steps before the finish line because they’ve decided that if it’s not working by now, it’s never going to work at all. Worse still are those who throw in more and more energy because they think that with more resources, the results will come faster.

This is like baking cookies in half the time by doubling the temperature. You’ll incinerate those cookies to ashes!

In simple terms: Everything in this world has a natural development time, and this fact will not change no matter what resources you throw at it.

So relax and be patient. Remember that you too, as part of the universe, are also governed by the laws of the universe, and you cannot change the natural development time.

If you remember this, you will less likely work yourself up into frustration, or worse, push yourself into a downward spiral of negativity.

3. Support and Educate Yourself

Like the child who is learning how to walk, you need support. You also need the guidance on how to do it, and also the role models to look up to.

Many people give up because they think that “The Secret” is the “be all and end all” solution. Well, it’s NOT. “The Secret” is just a small portion. It was never intended, and has never been, the whole answer.

Coming to the conclusion that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work when all you ever did to educate yourself was watch “The Secret” 19 times (without looking at changing the habits of other areas of your life) is like coming to the conclusion that exercising is not an effective way to lose weight because all you did is run on the treadmill for 2 hours a day (but you’re still stuffing yourself with fried foods and cheesecakes).

So seek and be hungry for new knowledge. Also, make an effort to be amongst people or communities where you can support each other, learn from each other and also share new knowledge that you have found.

While the Law of Attraction is not an overnight delivery service, it will indeed deliver, if you do your part too!

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What is the ONE thing which separates most people form the successful and wealthy? Which ONE thing, which if you do it, will catapult YOU into the realm of the successful?

No matter what it is you want to be, want to have or want to do, if you fail to do this one thing you will never, never succeed.

All you need to do is this ONE thing. What is it? What do you need to do to acquire the success the so desire?

Just this week I came to realize what this ONE thing is. I am in a mentoring program called Wealth Lab which helps us build on our own business idea. I have just got great ideas to promote our business. These ideas are great. But unless I do the ONE thing needed I will get nowhere. So what is that ONE thing which your and I must do in order to succeed? Simply this…

Get up off your butt and act! That’s it! That’s all there is to it! This is the single thing which separates the great from the small – the act of doing something!

How many great ideas and well worked out plans never succeed simply because someone didn’t get up of his butt to do it? How many ideas have you and I had which die away, simply because we did not do this ONE thing needed for success – we did not get up to act. We stayed stuck in our comfort zone. Strange, isn’t it? We will be in pain over our current circumstances yet we do not move out of the familiar in order to face the unfamiliar circumstances revolving around the new idea.

Friend, its time to ACT! Its time to get up and go and do that ONE thing which will separate you from your peers and propel you into a new world of possibilities. You know what it is. Just do it!

He shared about ATTITUDE, that this is the main thing which controls everything in our lives. Get your attitude straightened out and you are on your way to achieving your set goals. It is a matter of raising our awareness to a higher spiritual level, to know who you are and what you are. We are all spiritual beings, and here is an amazing statement: Spirit is 100% evenly present in all places at the same time, and as we are spirit then we are also 100% evenly present in all places at the same time. This takes some thinkiing about to sink in. It basically means we are all connected. And what has this to do with achieving our goals? Well, when you set a goal, clear and defined, and you KNOW that that is what you want, then your sub-conscious mind will begin to attract ideas, situations and people from this universal mind which will all go together to help you achieve your goal.

You set a clear goal, make a decision and take action, not waiting for circumstances to change, but rather setting out to change the circumstances.