Jim's Secret Thoughts

I have just watched the Avatar movie and really enjoyed it. In spite of the typical American heavy handed approach to “destroy and take” I believe the writer of the story has presented us with a very clear message.
The native Na’vi of the fictional planet, Pandora, are depicted as having a very close bond with [...]

This interesting topic, Boundaries in Relationships, was suggested to me, and this being a self-help, law of attraction kind of blog, this is as much on topic as any. Relationships are important, otherwise why do so many create problems for themselves over their relationships? But why are relationships important, what boundaries are necessary, if any [...]

Is justice so important? Does the right to justice imply the right to seek and destroy? When is the fight for justice best laid aside? How much more peaceful would our world be if we would lay aside justice and forgive?
How far should love go? When is loving too much? When is it not justifiable [...]

What do these have in common: Taliban, Ulster, Iran, Israel, religion, work colleague and the next door neighbour? These are all areas of conflict, and they all boil down to non-acceptance, pride and animalistic awareness.
Think about it. Every area of conflict has one basic problem: one or both sides believe themselves to be right and [...]

How do you deal with a conflict situation? Do you insist on your being right, implying of course that the other person is wrong? Do you feel your sense of justice and righteousness is at stake and your view must be defended and spoken out and heard? Here is a suggestion I find very usful when faced with conflict.

A friend recently shared how his grandparents avoided severe conflict. They have 5 rules using the fingers of the hand.
Rule 1. The Thumb: Take a hike – Get out for a walk – Take a 10 minute or even a 10 second break.
This gives you the chance to calm down or think before you react. [...]